Beyond 50, now we gaze into the horizon of human destiny.

Beyond fifty years of age we find things changing.  Spirituality calls to us as we peer soberly into our limited time on earth.  Our joys cannot be selfish or we perish in despair and regret.  We must lift our eyes to the hills of vision from where our hope and salvation come.

Now, tired but willing to embrace life while letting go of it, we move beyond seeking personal pleasures and goals.  We hear the spirit speak to our hearts, and mourn for all who suffer, we take our staffs of courage and begin to walk our last miles, eyes looking for the horizon of our destiny and hearts humbled in a world of wonder.

We are born again into the age of marvel.  We embrace this vale of tears with joy, and smile as we see the joy of loving while letting go.  We are over fifty, over sixty, over seventy, over eighty or even over ninety, and our stories are deep and rich, and our hearts are embracing their true home, and the glory and the joy of it cannot be spoken.  We smile, and the young wonder and have hope.

We are aged, we are those in nursing homes with no one to treasure our stories, we are the ones who know that life is terminal, some even know the approximate time we must leave, we have professional jobs and we have menial jobs and we have no jobs at all, we are the ones finishing our careers as parents, some of us have no home.

Yes, we are over fifty, and ready for the best and most glorious ride of our lives.   We find our destinies in a praise of life that rocks the heavens of our imagination, find our glory in the humblest acts of kindness.  Once we knew our peers and nodded, now our peers are in life’s graduate school, and soon we will toss our graduation hats into the air, we will smile as the curtain closes, and all who know us offer the highest human praise, “This one was one of us.”.

Amen

Rev. David Mitchel Stow of the Universal Life Church

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The Music of the Spirit

The music of the wholesome loving message of the Holy Spirit is just outside our normal hearing. Listen… It will move you and take your breath away, the love it speaks cannot be uttered.

Rev. David Mitchel Stow

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Primal therapy and religion

This post is here as courtesy to a link in http://theprimalmind.com/ it is a duplicate of Primal Therapy: A comment here on this same blog and can also be found at the site http:optimisticintegration.com

I responded recently to something Arthur Janov had posted on face book and I thought my response was clear enough that I would share it with you here. It concerns Primal Therapy and some other views expressed about religion and other therapies. I hope you gain some insight as a result of what I had to say, and as always I welcome your remarks and criticisms.

Well, in regard to saying “it’s the devil” I think the most painful things to feel are those things we did to others because our own pain created a “monster” something “inhuman or inhumane”. It is too painful to feel that the “monster” is yourself, and of course it isn’t your “real self” so all this makes one vulnerable to the notion of something “possessing us from within”. This possession is pain but I can see their “belief” as a dissociation from a too painful realisation. When our culture gets into a need to “punish” they are actually pushing people to realise something too painful to integrate because it is first necessary to feel the harm others did to you and then your eyes will open to when you yourself were a “monster” or far less than perfect dad or mom, sister or brother, or friend. Out of order out of sync approaches lead to abreaction and not feeling, false repentance and false forgiveness, and unfortunately early release from prison. Such abreactions aren’t just the province of religious fervours but of psychological therapies as well in more subtle forms. Just the fact that we push people with punishing attitudes to see the “error of their ways” is just such an example whether in therapy or in our judicial systems. This insanity is ingrained in what people call normal healthy socially approved organisations quite apart from religion but yet highly influenced by the same forces.

Real forgiveness can’t happen until we have fully felt what happened to us in the first place, mouthing the words is a shallow expression and apt to mean either giving trust to those not deserving of it, or to a more stealthy or clever form of punishment. I remember a guy who used to say with strained anger in his voice “I forgive you.” Obviously he had not forgiven the person but was just in a shallow religious “act out”. The same goes for “repentance”. How can one truly repent without feeling what they had done to another or others in the first place? It’s crazy. Yet in our mythologies we see traces of sanity, because even insanity is symbolic of real pain and need, and it is interesting that Jesus was supposed to have said that anyone not “taking up his or her cross wasn’t worthy of him”. In the Christian mythology Jesus represents real love of course, and unless you feel the pain caused to you and then the pain you caused you can’t connect with real love i.e. Jesus. However in the religion we also find that abreaction rules by pushing first repentance and then forgiveness when it needs to be the other way around, and it need to be the result of feeling and not an attempt to change feeling.

When people say primal therapy is revolutionary there is a reason for that. Love and sanity are indeed revolutionary concepts in this world, and revolutionaries like Jesus seemed to have recognised this fact. So often I try to get people to see the truth using the myths of their own culture. This obviously can back fire but it is in my opinion often a necessary step to taking up one’s “cross”, or better said, “one’s own pain, either from experiencing it or causing it”. Christians, for instance, need to take a good look at the “Jesus” in their own hearts, and understand that this “Jesus” is all the love they couldn’t connect to because they didn’t follow his injunction to “take up their own cross” or “suffering”. I am slightly annoyed when I hear the Christian song with this line in it “the consecrated cross I’ll bear”, that is not what Jesus was supposed to have said. He actually was reputed to have said we should take up our “own” cross, not “his”.

Mythology can’t be accurately interpreted unless we get real with the pain and struggle for survival that human beings, real human beings, have experienced.

Primal Therapy, correctly done, sheds light on social mythologies and this itself is a form of evidence for its validity. Improperly done, Primal Therapy, is no more than what the field of psychology has become: our state religion. State religions enslave, that’s why the early founders of the United States thought it should be kept separate from government. That has now been threatened by the “far right” of the Republican Party. They need to “ditch” that concept. Why? Religions are pain killers based on belief systems that differ, and when they contact opposing belief systems their efficacy for dealing with pain is weakened. When this happens the members feel as if their “security” and possibly their “life” is threatened. War can easily break out when this occurs.

It’s hard to tell all the truth in a world so deluded. I applaud Arthur Janov for doing so. Want to be a real saint? Do the same. Goodness doesn’t happen in a heart that doesn’t feel its true reality. Again something that Jesus supposedly said: “If the light within you be honest you will be full of light, but if the light within you be dishonest you will be full of darkness, and if the ‘light’ within you is darkness how great is that darkness!”

One great truth can be understood here. Love cannot touch the dishonest heart too afraid to feel it’s reality, and love demands only that such a heart become “honest” in a caring sensitive way, not asking anyone to forgive or repent concerning things they have never fully felt in the first place. The short version is this: honesty has to communicate with love or there is no real change.

You don’t believe what Art is saying here? Then don’t believe what Jesus said either, because they are pretty much the same.

Jesus is not our excuse to used electric shock or the electric chair to fix our personal or social problems. When it’s not love it’s not what Jesus stood for, and it’s not what any nation should follow.

Hate is not a family value, real forgiveness and repentance is. How do we come to really forgive and repent? We have to feel what it is we are forgiving and repenting from. Make sense? Welcome to the enlightenment of Janovian Primal Therapy.

Let me end by saying that fake primal therapy isn’t effective. I was undergoing mock primal therapy when the therapist inserted, because of some need to punish, a vision of the faults I had as a child: “mean cruel hateful little David”. This took me right out of a feeling I could handle and the therapist’s response was “oh I guess you’re not ready for that yet”. This therapist didn’t “get it”. Also the dehumanising approaches of cognitive therapy and the punitive religious antics don’t work either. Can you now see why? I hope so, our world’s better future may well depend on this understanding.

Art is very inspiring, and that is not because he abuses charismatic abilities, but because he has seen a deep core reality in our human experience and knows we must take action.

I would advise that those with money contribute money to support on going research concerning Primal Therapy paid to the clinic that knows how to do it. I would advise anyone seeking serious treatment to go to that clinic as a patient if it is workable, and I would advise others to speak on Art’s behalf where ever they are. Why? Because the “devil” of primal pain has many deceptions and faces and they should be seen for what they are and not for what they are not.

Remember that I said this and not the clinic. I in no way get any pay or benefit from having done so, and I wish you would see that Art’s detractors usually do benefit from their off target critiques. Some by supporting forms of therapy that were such failures that their results, by their own testing, seldom show any benefit over leaving their patients alone, if not showing they were better off without said therapies in the first place. Remember the source when you hear critiques.

Here’s hoping what should be the common sense of all this is something that was well communicated. I am open as always to any critiques.

Thanks Arthur for all your sacrifices and hard study and work. Some of us “get it” at least a little.

Now for general consumption again: I would like to add that “getting it all” intellectually does not qualify any of us to be primal therapists, nor do degrees from colleges. What qualifies any of us is to feel our own feelings deeply and being involved with helping others and understanding the science behind it all. How? Go here: http://primaltherapy.com/

Thanks for your patience in reading all this. I hope you found it worth while.

David Mitchel Stow

 

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Primal Therapy: a comment

I responded recently to something Arthur Janov had posted on face book and I thought my response was clear enough that I would share it with you here. It concerns Primal Therapy and some other views expressed about religion and other therapies. I hope you gain some insight as a result of what I had to say, and as always I welcome your remarks and criticisms.

Well, in regard to saying “it’s the devil” I think the most painful things to feel are those things we did to others because our own pain created a “monster” something “inhuman or inhumane”. It is too painful to feel that the “monster” is yourself, and of course it isn’t your “real self” so all this makes one vulnerable to the notion of something “possessing us from within”. This possession is pain but I can see their “belief” as a dissociation from a too painful realisation. When our culture gets into a need to “punish” they are actually pushing people to realise something too painful to integrate because it is first necessary to feel the harm others did to you and then your eyes will open to when you yourself were a “monster” or far less than perfect dad or mom, sister or brother, or friend. Out of order out of sync approaches lead to abreaction and not feeling, false repentance and false forgiveness, and unfortunately early release from prison. Such abreactions aren’t just the province of religious fervours but of psychological therapies as well in more subtle forms. Just the fact that we push people with punishing attitudes to see the “error of their ways” is just such an example whether in therapy or in our judicial systems. This insanity is ingrained in what people call normal healthy socially approved organisations quite apart from religion but yet highly influenced by the same forces.

Real forgiveness can’t happen until we have fully felt what happened to us in the first place, mouthing the words is a shallow expression and apt to mean either giving trust to those not deserving of it, or to a more stealthy or clever form of punishment. I remember a guy who used to say with strained anger in his voice “I forgive you.” Obviously he had not forgiven the person but was just in a shallow religious “act out”. The same goes for “repentance”. How can one truly repent without feeling what they had done to another or others in the first place? It’s crazy. Yet in our mythologies we see traces of sanity, because even insanity is symbolic of real pain and need, and it is interesting that Jesus was supposed to have said that anyone not “taking up his or her cross wasn’t worthy of him”. In the Christian mythology Jesus represents real love of course, and unless you feel the pain caused to you and then the pain you caused you can’t connect with real love i.e. Jesus. However in the religion we also find that abreaction rules by pushing first repentance and then forgiveness when it needs to be the other way around, and it need to be the result of feeling and not an attempt to change feeling.

When people say primal therapy is revolutionary there is a reason for that. Love and sanity are indeed revolutionary concepts in this world, and revolutionaries like Jesus seemed to have recognised this fact. So often I try to get people to see the truth using the myths of their own culture. This obviously can back fire but it is in my opinion often a necessary step to taking up one’s “cross”, or better said, “one’s own pain, either from experiencing it or causing it”. Christians, for instance, need to take a good look at the “Jesus” in their own hearts, and understand that this “Jesus” is all the love they couldn’t connect to because they didn’t follow his injunction to “take up their own cross” or “suffering”. I am slightly annoyed when I hear the Christian song with this line in it “the consecrated cross I’ll bear”, that is not what Jesus was supposed to have said. He actually was reputed to have said we should take up our “own” cross, not “his”.

Mythology can’t be accurately interpreted unless we get real with the pain and struggle for survival that human beings, real human beings, have experienced.

Primal Therapy, correctly done, sheds light on social mythologies and this itself is a form of evidence for its validity. Improperly done, Primal Therapy, is no more than what the field of psychology has become: our state religion. State religions enslave, that’s why the early founders of the United States thought it should be kept separate from government. That has now been threatened by the “far right” of the Republican Party. They need to “ditch” that concept. Why? Religions are pain killers based on belief systems that differ, and when they contact opposing belief systems their efficacy for dealing with pain is weakened. When this happens the members feel as if their “security” and possibly their “life” is threatened. War can easily break out when this occurs.

It’s hard to tell all the truth in a world so deluded. I applaud Arthur Janov for doing so. Want to be a real saint? Do the same. Goodness doesn’t happen in a heart that doesn’t feel its true reality. Again something that Jesus supposedly said: “If the light within you be honest you will be full of light, but if the light within you be dishonest you will be full of darkness, and if the ‘light’ within you is darkness how great is that darkness!”

One great truth can be understood here. Love cannot touch the dishonest heart too afraid to feel it’s reality, and love demands only that such a heart become “honest” in a caring sensitive way, not asking anyone to forgive or repent concerning things they have never fully felt in the first place. The short version is this: honesty has to communicate with love or there is no real change.

You don’t believe what Art is saying here? Then don’t believe what Jesus said either, because they are pretty much the same.

Jesus is not our excuse to used electric shock or the electric chair to fix our personal or social problems. When it’s not love it’s not what Jesus stood for, and it’s not what any nation should follow.

Hate is not a family value, real forgiveness and repentance is. How do we come to really forgive and repent? We have to feel what it is we are forgiving and repenting from. Make sense? Welcome to the enlightenment of Janovian Primal Therapy.

Let me end by saying that fake primal therapy isn’t effective. I was undergoing mock primal therapy when the therapist inserted, because of some need to punish, a vision of the faults I had as a child: “mean cruel hateful little David”. This took me right out of a feeling I could handle and the therapist’s response was “oh I guess you’re not ready for that yet”. This therapist didn’t “get it”. Also the dehumanising approaches of cognitive therapy and the punitive religious antics don’t work either. Can you now see why? I hope so, our world’s better future may well depend on this understanding.

Art is very inspiring, and that is not because he abuses charismatic abilities, but because he has seen a deep core reality in our human experience and knows we must take action.

I would advise that those with money contribute money to support on going research concerning Primal Therapy paid to the clinic that knows how to do it. I would advise anyone seeking serious treatment to go to that clinic as a patient if it is workable, and I would advise others to speak on Art’s behalf where ever they are. Why? Because the “devil” of primal pain has many deceptions and faces and they should be seen for what they are and not for what they are not.

Remember that I said this and not the clinic. I in no way get any pay or benefit from having done so, and I wish you would see that Art’s detractors usually do benefit from their off target critiques. Some by supporting forms of therapy that were such failures that their results, by their own testing, seldom show any benefit over leaving their patients alone, if not showing they were better off without said therapies in the first place. Remember the source when you hear critiques.

Here’s hoping what should be the common sense of all this is something that was well communicated. I am open as always to any critiques.

Thanks Arthur for all your sacrifices and hard study and work. Some of us “get it” at least a little.

Now for general consumption again: I would like to add that “getting it all” intellectually does not qualify any of us to be primal therapists, nor do degrees from colleges. What qualifies any of us is to feel our own feelings deeply and being involved with helping others and understanding the science behind it all. How? Go here: http://primaltherapy.com/

Thanks for your patience in reading all this. I hope you found it worth while.

David Mitchel Stow

 

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Fundamentalism? Right or Wrong? Online Debate

Enough already!  Slavery was in place long after it should have been because the Bible authorized it and condoned it even through the New Testament. Those wanting “scripture and verse” for that can easily find it with any good concordance. Fundamentalism tries to go back to a literal interpretation of the Bible. So guess what? Yea, that would make a real fundamentalist tolerant of slavery, or even endorsing of it.

The difference between sophistry and actual clear and logical statements backed up with careful analysis couldn’t be shown more plainly than in your splendid example of “sophistry” above.  Fundamentalists basically say: “Agree with me on my source of authority or you’re wrong, and I will call all your statements “sophistry” if you disagree with me.”

Science disagrees with the idea that the Bible is a textbook, yet some respond that any scientific disagreements are only “sophistry”.  Logic disagrees with this concept as well and fundamentalists still give the same answer.

Some have never read from the site http://evilbible.com/? It is quite a good read.

I would dare say that if I wanted to be assured of my salvation I would definitely not follow the Bible, I would follow the good in it, yes, but not the Bible as a “textbook”, because it assuredly is not.

Fundamentalist need to believe that all life is life because it has “God’s breath” blown into it.  Haven’t they heard? Science has created a cell that is alive totally from created genetics.  They did this without any breath what so ever, with or without mouthwash.

Every year and every generation such backward illogical and even abusive beliefs back a little more out of society from once having occupied a central place, this is not without reason. May it continue to be so.

Responses from those who disagree are welcome and will be posted as long as they do not contain foul language and make a clear argument.

Rev. Dave

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Primal Therapy: A letter to Art concerning health care and a feeling revolution.

The Lion of Jesse was a Progressive!

The Lion of Jesse was a Progressive!

Thank you Art for your gift of Janovian Primal Therapy,

Some of us are very unreal out here but even so, we pick up when someone cares, and when they endorse caring.

You mentioned the time and I would add cost that it takes to create a good therapist, even though they may be a caring person.  That being the case it leaves those of us who are in poverty and struggling just to eat and keep a roof over our heads in a pretty difficult situation.

I live in this capitalist country where not only do they advise not to pick up a child but they see health care as something to be limited and denied whenever possible.  That’s like waiting until a child is not only crying but in an absolute fit and then discussing whether the child is genuinely in need now, and just how much time should be given in the process.

Many of us who are poor die in emergency rooms here, and  not because our country just can’t “afford it”, because France, a poorer country, and England, also a poorer country, seem to been able to afford caring for the poor in a reasonable manner.

My back is injured and though I can walk for a bit, eventually the pain gets worse and worse until I can’t walk, and sometimes I have fallen down.  This injury occurred on the job so it is hotly debated whether to give me the laser surgery that might possibly allow me to go to work on the trucking docks driving a fork lift as I once used to do.  Yet, I having been in this condition now for 2 years plus, and although I have won all my court battles the Republicans and “blue dog Democrats” have put laws in place that mean help for me can be disputed forever, until homelessness, in which case even a lawyer can’t help, or until a Republican judge, or a conservative Democrat, rules against me.  When a worker is hurt they are treated as a criminal, and there is no double jeopardy, your case is tried and tried again forever, or until those who don’t want to help you finally win….

Let us picture a child crying, the child cries, she is hungry. but until her hunger is starvation she isn’t a necessary expense, and when starvation sets in, then, “gosh” its just too late, there are “others” who might more easily be saved.  Arguments for not caring, and for not caring for children crying in a far off land, or even for refusing care to children right here at home, always has it’s excuses, and the same applies for workers injured at work.

Now I find myself unable to afford anything I need medically, and all my adult life I have desired to have primal therapy, which would have prevented the extremely high blood pressure that I have now.  We don’t even invest in preventative medicine.

Yes, Art, your clinic at any given time might have been willing to help me and many others, and you might have done a lot to bring down health care costs, but your clinics can’t operate on air and this unreal healthcare system here in the U.S.A., bent on denying care to anyone for any excuse that can be given, will not fund them.

Finally, those of us too poor for college, too poor for even basic health care needs, too poor to deserve “fixing”, turn to each other for whatever comfort we can achieve.  We are wounded, we have what you call primal pain, and some of us have common delusions that afford some comforting relief.  Such as “One your number is up, your number is up.  Only God decides when you die, and I go to Church regularly.”  Those greedy few at the top of our society are very pleased that they think that way.  However, there are those like myself.  I think, and I know the false comforts for what they are, and I know what is happening to even the middle class, let alone the desperate poor, and like one of a herd of cattle who has looked and seen that we are being either used or slaughtered, I look sadly on this world and it’s needless greed.

Yet, because I understand that everyone is sick, I am sad even for those doing the slaughter, because they have lost their hearts and humanity to greed and so they too are losing their lives.

Now I ponder that my awareness of all this drives up my blood pressure, but running around with a vacuous smile and a numbed heart just isn’t my style.

I might should state that greed is not evil, It may be the source of a lot of it, but it is not evil.  It is what happens when only symbols of what we once desperately needed are sought out as if they were life.  This is what your therapy teaches us very plainly. So what can we do about this?  We need a primal revolution.

I have no greed, at least in terms of craving money or fame, I have studied religions and worked without social security payments being made for various groups around the country, and my reward will be insufficient social security benefits in my old age.

When I was young I sought some place where I could believe enough in something that comforted me enough so I could find a place to belong, a home.

I found no home.  Every place I went was caught up in the same sick self centered soup, just with various rationalizations and smiles pasted on top.

Now I have decided, here in my late fifties, that I will try to “create a home” for those like myself where we might find some relief in this misery, and perhaps find a means for all of us to survive in our revolutionary new philosophical home, a spiritual home, all about communication between perspectives that help us love and those express our trust.  I call this movement, “optimistic intelligence”.

Meanwhile I search for jobs, and at my age, I find only ones that I will not be able to work long hours at, and I smile and hand them a resume with 2 plus years missing. The time when I fought for real help but never got it.

Remember, I am not so unthoughtful as to not see that soon I may be in the street, another great success of the art of denial on the part of a very greedy nation.  I cannot be silent on my way to such an end.  I must be a voice for the primal revolution, and for what degree of optimism we can achieve with the intelligence of love.

I seek to offer the comfort you spoke of in your letter here.  Yet how do you get “paid” for that?  Then too, I must say to them, this is only comfort, and must say to those more fortunate, “there is a better answer for you in California”.  So, Art, what we really need is a health care system that cares and also supplies the preventive treatments that you provide.

One last tear for everyone, while I find myself sinking into this death, a death supplied by stealthy powerful con artists pushing the gospel of greed.  Now I can pray that I don’t go insane from observing all this faith in greed masquerading as wisdom, or come to endorse violence, and that I can give one brave and final wave to a world that never listened well, and pass into the non existence from which I came.

There are those who think we live forever, but then what comfort is that?  Reincarnation without remembering anything from your past is the same as having died.  We aren’t even the same baby we once were so where is the immortality?  Then some want to live forever in a place of eternal bliss while others live in agony, their screams reaching to your heavenly abode.  I think that sounds a bit like what we have in capitalism, and other systems that allow all the power into a few hands:  The greedy at the top fearful of losing their wealth, and the suffering at the bottom hoping one day to rise to that fake heaven, where they too can fail to pay a fair share of taxes, and sit around at expensive restaurants and go to religious meetings for a bit of insurance, while denying health insurance for the poor.

Certainly the Jewish understanding of the sadness of this world, and its many brave humorists over the years, have spoken much of what I have said here, and I have to say that for the poor “humor” may not be the best medicine there is, but it may be the best medicine available.  So, Art, you were born in a culture that definitely understood the situation, that may be where some of your insights into life have come from, and why you now have searched the answer for much of the suffering in this world.  I believe you have found a great form of help if only others would listen.

I wish I was a humorist.  Meanwhile I can tell myself not to “wallow in the pain”, to smile when the world is a sad joke, to let my courage keep the desire to live and enjoy life, alive in my children.  Today I give myself a military cheer and muster my courage as I fight for the only thing left in what is probably a hopeless battle, the artistic appreciation of the glory of never giving up, of making the last parts of the music of my life poignantly alive and beautiful.

Art, you have given many of us hope for a better world, and I can only hope that the world becomes rational enough to take that hope and make it a reality for many more people.

Meanwhile those of us in the trenches are speaking reason, and love, and creative openness to any hearts that might still be listening.

Let hope shine in the darkness, and in the hearts of every suffering soul, until we can say “free at last, free at last, thank God almighty, free at last.”

Rev. David Mitchel Stow

 

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Primal Therapy, a letter to the master surgeon.

Dear Art,

I was wrong. Comfort can’t heal primal pain.  It can’t heal pain, not the kind that threatened our very survival.  It can only artificially soothe us.  That is what religion does.  That is why no one ever really gets well through religion.  Whatever religion is, it cannot be a truly curative therapy, and it cannot heal primal pain.

You can put all the forms of therapy together and still all you have is comfort and soothing.  It can help you to grieve and that might be called a form of healing but it cannot undo primal pain.  It gets close though.  I was close with this concept but I didn’t get the fact prize. 

Only feeling the pain can heal.  Only reliving the pain in degrees.  It isn’t entirely about reliving in a “safe enough” environment, although that is necessary, it’s about reliving the pain in degrees that can be handled.  It sounds so harsh but it’s still the truth.

What triggered my realization was the constant grieving I was doing with such shallow results.  I was only soothing myself, which a person can do on their own of course to a degree even if they are very out of touch with their feelings and their pain. 

Then I remembered how anger had helped me and how it awakened a more acute sense of the pain inside.  Then I realized that there is no way your survival can be threatened, and you then realize and feel this threat, without your feeling angry about it.  Comfort ignores the anger, and so it gets around really feeling the pain that was a threat to your survival.

Beautiful and moving things can be said that are very comforting and motivating, yet, they aren’t healing, and they can be in fact very unreal.  Comfort is important I realize and it can help one to grieve which is healing in a small way and it should be a part of the process, but only feeling the pain can heal the hurt that threatened your survival and that might be called a form of grieving but without the experience of the anger about the threat you cannot really touch the pain, be aware of it, and then feel it.  That is why you had to move all the furniture and breakable things out of your office, right?

Once you also realize the power of primal pain by getting angry at things in the present and then find the safety and comfort that allows the primal pain to come to the surface, then you realize this isn’t a kid’s game.  This is something that must be handled very professionally.  Years of training and experience would matter a great deal in this process.  This isn’t a kid’s game where we all say “let’s go feel our feelings”.  I have seen this in the IPA, where ridiculous things that may be about feeling but aren’t anywhere close to feeling primal pain are seen as “treatments”.

The process of feeling primal pain isn’t just grieving, it is also opening and feeling the reality of the threat which is primal pain.  Grieving can work on things that we are open enough to feel, and even then there is a stage of anger, an anger at the felt threat to one’s safety and life.  However grieving isn’t really possible until you first feel the pain about which you are going to grieve, and this has to involve an initial awareness that could easily be an angry one, something that a “comforting” therapist would try to squash therefor leaving you unable to grieve in a complete way.

Yet, the fact is, that what comforts can be very sick.  It can in fact be something that must be avoided in your life in order to feel and stay healthy.  I am talking about the comfort that comes from surrounding yourself with conditions that once you survived, and so see as “safe” even though in reality this “comfort” isn’t safe at all, and it is or can be a form of addiction.  Such safety is a false comfort and it impairs our ability to live free of the influence of primal pain and slowly feel and undo it.  Primal healing needs a lifestyle that avoids the comforting addictions of the past, or it can’t work.  There are a lot of wiring changes, false comfort grooves, that exist because of primal pain, and this can be side stepped by feeling the primal pain, but it remains as an easy course, a temptation that will block the new grooves of feeling, the new wiring that is more healthy.

When your realize your pain and then see what mere comfort does, what typical psychotherapy and religion does, then you might easily feel enraged by it.  Why?  It is false comfort, it’s a child crying in a department store and the parent covers their mouths by force, while promising a toy, it’s someone awakening from a normal sleep and being given a sleeping pill, it’s a victim of abuse being told to “just be quiet” and smile, it’s a preacher telling you to “shush” that your mother who just died is in “heaven”.

So was what you said about not needing a “comforting therapist” a cruel statement?  Not at all.  It was kind in the right way.

Art you were correct as usual.  It’s taken me over thirty years to see this and people think that a few years of college and a degree is all you need to practice primal therapy.  That is patent nonsense.  Your therapy is developing continually and so anyone abandoning that process cannot be called “certified” by you.  This to me is just what should be “common sense”.

Religion is about comfort, about getting you through the night, it is only healing in the sense that it helps you to cope with life, but as I say in my blog, you can’t have the “real deal” without properly done primal therapy.

Rev. David Mitchel Stow

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When the Spirit Speaks

When the love is so great that you feel willing to be hurt or die for someone and you are close to tears and the heart speaks love and hope to those feeling unloved and hopeless,

when the Spirit like a moving piece of music sings to your soul but cannot be fully heard or grasped,

when the knee bows and the heart is filled with glory that you know is the embrace of the One who is worthy of all glory and praise,

as the song of all this love begins to be sung in your ordinary life,

then the small still voice is found amongst the loud posturing of those who seek only for themselves,

and in it’s quiet way it speaks the destiny that God would give you, a destiny in which what you ask is God’s will pouring through you,

and when you are moved to say “let this mountainous obstacle move!” it moves,

and the ground of your reality shakes.

and then sings your soul to your Savior, and your God,

“How great you are, how great you are!”

Finally you turn and see Jesus, sitting near you on the mountain of faith that is high over the world of sorrows, and He says,

“Rest, my child, time to rest.” “Tomorrow we will eat and travel the roads where the blind walk and we will bring them light.”

There is no pride that comes from God, there is no drive to be selfish and then call it “freedom”,

there is no gaining of wealth on the backs of impoverished workers and telling them to be grateful for pay that is too small and taxes that are unfair,

there is no worship of the rich as if they were the dream of success that might come from God,

and you understand that when the rich young man went away sorrowful who would not sell all he had and give it to the poor,

God was asking less than that the rich pay their fair share of the taxes.

Greed is the root of all evil and the conservatives preach it like it is a blessing and a right from God and call it freedom, and the liberals love the same wealth and say “let us give a small portion to the poor, so that they will not rebel against us”, and they are like the pharisees and the sadducees before them.

Let us not be tempted into their arguments, but know that the only right way is when the King comes, and all the world sees the glory of love, shining everywhere and leaving no one in the darkness.

Rev. David Mitchel Stow

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Finding Our Way to Love: The Mandate of God

The Lion of Jesse was a Progressive!

The Lion of Jesse was a Progressive!

Salvation isn’t earned, the cry of the anti Christ is that you earn and deserve. The first Church had everything in common so that none lacked. Those that do not take care of their own are worse than unbelievers. The Republican Party has become the strong voice of the anti Christ.

We are not of this world, and deciding to vote for what feeds the hungry, the children and the widows, is not a hand out, it is God’s mandate. When Jesus fed the many with a small amount of fish and bread he never asked the disciples to give only serve those who “deserved it”.

Western Europe is proof that it is more blessed to give than receive and they are now no more broke than we are and the statement “broke” points to an artificial debt owed to the greed of those who steal by not paying their fair share of taxes to carry out God’s mandate.

They are the ones at the end of time that will come before him asking “When did we see you and did not help you?”

Helping the lowliest is serving Christ, beware the lies of the anti Christ. There comes a judgment, both now and at the end, and why ask when is the end of time? The end of time is when anyone dies, for them the end has come, and next comes payment, for those with the most love and sacrifice will be given more and those who had the least real wealth in heaven will have what they seemed to have taken away.

Lay up treasures in heaven where there is no decay and follow what is right in the living Word, the love that flows from hearts who seek no profit here on earth. How hard it is for the rich to enter the Kingdom of Heaven, it is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle, yet all is possible with God so never should we judge the final end of anyone. Yet fear the cost of love that is lost. Vote for a just and caring rule or be the ruler that was cast out.

Rev. David Mitchel Stow

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